YOU DEFINE SUCCESS!

Success is equivocal. With the change in an individual state, frame or mould also changes and its impact self the most but during our course of life, we tend to forget that human learning is consistent and every time success is formed, reformed and transformed. One must value self while deciding success and should also be considerate while putting it on others. The success achieved by you is not a standard for others. Putting pressures, expectations, norms, social- bondage on others just to make it moral, ethical, and socially acceptable is a grave mistake.

Success is traumatic, it never comes alone and is always accompanied by struggle, depression, anxiety, and panic attacks. Sadly, we all fail to acknowledge the efforts of others while figuring out ours. Each challenge is different and so the approach, journey and result, we need to understand it with an individualistic perspective. Our society contributes massively to this trauma factor, ‘log kya kahenge?’ is its masterstroke. It high time that we should realize the undue importance we have given to this. Success can't be only following these outrageous and overrated norms. It is our duty as Parents, Educators, Social workers and Counselors to bring out the best in our family and societies but not by making robots out of humans.

Success doesn't comply with excuses. It’s time that we undo this nuance of mistaking it as financial and career stability. Look around you 'is it so’? No, if success would have been only about money then we would have had 36% of world population unworthy. What I am trying to say here is Success is in everything we do, we achieve or even attempt in our lives. So if you can break your habit and not using an excuse for it you are successful. Success lies in small things. Nothing is so big that you exhaust yourself to achieve it. Give it a thought.

The biggest mistake that we commit while addressing success is that we impose our knowledge, definitions and expectations on others or self. We need to understand that it should not be imposed rather persuaded. We can't achieve it unless we understand its true nature. We can't ask someone to be successful without taking their interests, abilities, capabilities, skills into consideration and this most insensitive way of looking at success. One should always be considerate and compassionate while suggesting levels of success to others. This assertive approach is a great pitch and helps in minimizing gaps between relationships, unhealthy competition, crooked ways of getting things done and everything that follows.

In a nutshell, we can say that Success doesn't define you; you define success before it’s even there.