What to expect from expectations?

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”

― Bruce Lee

Perquisite of being in a relationship is having someone who can provide support and help when you need it. In healthy relationships, people help each other out, they’re supportive when the other person is stressed or upset, and they accommodate each other’s needs by sacrificing or compromising. This practice is based on expectations in every relationship. These expectations fly in from various windows and start settling gradually. Expectations are directly proportional to our equations, emotions and interactions with our partner. They may or may not seem to be plausible at first, but take shape over time.

Expectations can't be measured based on ethical or morals grounds, as it is the basic instinct of every human. What matters here is the outcome. You can’t control the way people think, feel, or react. You may try to, want to, but ultimately, how they act is up to them. Expectations may be a double-edged sword, one side they can be 'premeditated resentments’ while on the other 'means to save the relationship'. They are medium of thought, feelings and emotions between partners and affect them in some way or the other. The way they are kept and balanced can be extremely beneficial for the relationship.

When you base your feelings of happiness, worth, or confidence on the actions or reactions of your partner, the readiness of both partners is mandatory. Expecting too much or vice versa can serve as a hindrance and may lead to under or overestimating him/her. Being too straight is harmful as it causes doubts to pour in; this block can only be unclogged by taking them one at a time. While on the other hand not being open about them leads to misunderstanding, chaos and unavoidable circumstances which hamper both. A well-thought action and reaction time is a must under given circumstances.

Expectations have no roots and are highly circumstantial. Every partner must keep each other's abilities and capabilities in mind while setting up the frame. This doesn't mean you can't expect surprises or impromptu situations but flexibility will always make room for excitement and fun in a relationship.

In a nutshell, we can say that expectations have always been the heart and soul of a relation; all we need to do is tame it as per our needs. The sooner we make friends with them, the fuller our relationship becomes. They also enable the strengthening of a relationship by opening doors of interactions, exhilarations and revelations.

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